As a biromantic asexual woman, I refer to myself as bi or pan interchangeably.

When I looked at the definitions and using my background knowledge, it appears that both sexualities love regardless of gender.

While bisexual people like men and women, I also heard that very few of them won’t date other genders. Some bi people will only date cis men and women, others only men and women in general, and some will date nonbinary people and not care.

So anyway, don’t both sexualities love regardless of gender and find everyone attractive?

  • november@lemmy.vg
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    1 day ago

    First, I believe that gender is a spectrum and there’s more than two of them.

    Does the word “bilingual” imply there are only two languages?

    Really, pansexual is being attracted to the the person, regardless of their gender identity.

    That’s also what bisexuality is about.

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      1 day ago

      Ok. I didn’t argue against any of what you said, just gave my reasons for using the label that I do. I have met trans/NB exclusionary bisexuals, and that turned me off to using that label for myself. If other people use bisexual to describe themselves and mean it to encompass attraction all possible gender identities then that’s great!

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        20 hours ago

        There are also transphobic heterosexuals, asexuals, and gay people. Bigots sharing our orientation isn’t a reason to cede it to them.