like being told to “move my fat ass” or just plain annoying and then telling me they were joking.

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    5 days ago

    Damn it, beat me to it. Nip it in the bud. Tell them what you’re not ok “joking” about or being attacked (either at all or what topics are off limits).

    You need to set the rules or standards of engagement and let them make the choice to sef-filter themselves out of your life if they choose to ignore the rules you’ve implicitly and explicitly given fair warning about

    Show people how to treat you I guess I’m saying. If you dont set standards for yourself, others will fill the vacuum with their own which is not custom made for you. Dont ever worry about onesthat get away or opportunities lost, its never ok to treat yourself as poorly as they were expecting you to succumb to accomodate their convenience and entertainment

    Also, anytime someone argues you’re being an asshole or no fun or some other childish rationale, they’re usually 100% trying to manipulate you so be sure to firmly explain you just dont tolerate the problematic behavior that makes yoo feel not good and that it either needs to stop or you are or will be done with them for your own wellness+ its nothing personal + its not a joke