Agree completely, but peace is not the goal for every combatant. Some want domination, others eradication, while most civilians simply hope for survival. If we add retribution to the mix, then peace gets farther away. There must be some form of forgiveness, or the losing side has no incentive to give up prior to death. Political leverage comes at the point of the sword.
He’s just asking how Putin likes to have his genitals fondled.