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Cake day: May 3rd, 2025

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  • As someone who used to have a bad case of wanderlust for the same reasons, let me just say: the place where you belong is not a place out in the world that you find, it’s a place that you make inside of yourself from your satisfaction with your life, your connections to others, etc. What you seek can be found anywhere, but nowhere will make you happy until you do. Travel is a heck of an adventure and I have a lot of great stories from that time so I’m not saying don’t travel. Just don’t expect to find what you’re looking for wherever you go or you’ll never be satisfied with the experience in itself.













  • work is work: if your going to give me free time then let me go home."

    This is it right here. I would much rather spend my time doing what I want than whatever it is you imagine I would enjoy. Because mostly what I would enjoy is - no offense - time away from you/coworkers/anyone else I don’t choose to spend my time with. If you make it a work thing it feels compulsory and that will make it harder to enjoy no matter what it is. A better option would be to give everyone the day off and say ‘By the way a few of us are going to <wherever>’, that makes it optional and I can accept or not as I see fit. Although some people will still resent driving into work if you were just going to (effectively) tell them to go home again.


  • Except I was doing what’s called ‘speaking from experience’, which means I was speaking about my experience. Which you then decided to weigh in on as if you know a damned thing about it, or me, or even pain in general compared to the four specialist doctors I’ve seen on the subject. So yeah, when you start slinging vague opinions and generalizations about something I have lived for 20 years I’m gonna have some shit to say and you’re just going to have to accept that I speak in absolutes because I am the authority on my situation. If you have any actual experience or expertise to share on the subject then I’m all ears, but if all you want to do is whine because somebody knows more than you do about the nonsense you’re talking than you do then I’m gonna go do something more productive with my day.


  • I take it you have some better approach than relying on medication when my back pain becomes incapacitating? Cause it’s not fixable, I’ve seen numerous doctors about it over the years, not to mention chiropractors, physical therapists, etc. My choice is to take pain meds when things get bad or to just be incapacitated for the rest of the day whenever it flares up. So if you have a better approach I’m all ears, but just saying ‘drugs are bad mkay?’ isn’t terribly convincing because so far my experience has been that not relying on drugs is all downside.