Is anyone even allowed to get over something like that and go on with their lives?
If it was a mistake and you didn’t intend to actually kill anyone, then yes I think you’re allowed to move on at some point and even forgive yourself for that.
Mistakes happen. Often it’s just bad luck. There’s no benefit in beating yourself up about it. What happened has happened and there’s no going back. Grieving and regretting and feeling bad and such is normal and okay but I’d say 20 years is enough time to start thinking of forgiveness and moving on.
If it was a mistake and you didn’t intend to actually kill anyone, then yes I think you’re allowed to move on at some point and even forgive yourself for that.
Mistakes happen. Often it’s just bad luck. There’s no benefit in beating yourself up about it. What happened has happened and there’s no going back. Grieving and regretting and feeling bad and such is normal and okay but I’d say 20 years is enough time to start thinking of forgiveness and moving on.